• Pat Grady

    “Go to conferences – the relationships you will make at these are invaluable.”
    Sooooooooooooooooo true!

  • Misty Matera

    Great ideas. Thanks this helped me allot.

  • http://www.qnary.com/ Qnary

    Cultivating relationships is very important. When you are looking for a job or new people to connect with, LinkedIn is a great place to meet and communicate with people in your desired field; joining groups is a great way to do this. It enables you to be exposed to people you wouldn’t have otherwise “met.”

  • http://www.facebook.com/christine.degraff Christine DeGraff

    I think it’s important but I agree with the other guy – just blindly sharing things that you don’t feel add value to your network seems like a bad idea – and i don’t think people should assume that their relationships entitle them to unlimited access – so I can see why he needed to draw the line.

  • http://twitter.com/malik112 Shadab Malik

    I completely disagree. Whats value? Value lies in the quality of a thought. For instance, being a hotelier wouldnt stop me to share a quality article/post about increase in tulips prices to my network. I mean why not if its interesting and if you do it as a favor to someone you know.

  • http://www.boom-online.co.uk/ Amy Fowler

    Hmmm, I get the person’s point. Although I’m really not precious about what I Tweet and will Tweet most things I find interesting, as well as anything someone I liked asked me to; so long as it wasn’t complete crap.

    I think too many people worry far too much about what they Tweet. They’re gone and forgotten in seconds so why worry? Unless you’re a massive brand, but that’s another issue.

    Anyway, what I don’t understand here is the need to go into so much detail about *why* they wouldn’t Tweet your article. Why not just say ‘hey, good post but I don’t think it really fits with my audience, so if you don’t mind I’ll give Tweeting this one a miss’?

  • http://twitter.com/sarahesinfield Sarah

    I’m inclined to agree with your friend. I only share when I love what friends have written and it is relevant to my community. There are a few people in my network that frequently ask me to “please RT and share” things. And it’s super frustrating, even when it’s from someone I have a relationship with. No doubt the content she’s sharing is important to her (usually there’s a client behind it waiting for “big” results). But it’s the action that’s lame. If the content is as great and/or as important as she thinks it is – I’d stumble upon it if she posted it on her normal social networks.

  • http://profiles.google.com/ajfried Aaron Friedman

    Good point Amy. If I find it interesting, I usually give it a share as well. Total crap though goes ignored.
    But I like to think that through the network I have created, total crap will NOT be sent to me :)

  • http://profiles.google.com/ajfried Aaron Friedman

    See, Sarah, I don’t agree. Just because my friends share something on their social networks doesn’t mean that I will see it. If I have a personal relationship with someone, that by all means, please send it over to me and alert me to it. Why should out relationship be forced to stay on twitter when in real life we have gone out for lunch or drinks?

    But as I said, it will always get my attention. If it becomes excessive and annoying I may start to reconsider that person’s relationship and their motivations… but that has yet to happen.

  • http://profiles.google.com/ajfried Aaron Friedman

    I am not saying to share things that are TOTALLY irrelevant just because it comes from a friend. I trust that the people I know understand me and what interests me.

    A perfect example is if someone sent me an infographic about bacon… I do not eat bacon and would honestly feel pretty uncomfortable sharing that. But I think my network understands that. (and if they don’t they do now :) )

    But if I can relate to it, chances are I would be more inclined to share it if it came from a friend than from a total stranger. If I disagreed with it, I would let that be known, but I would likely share it to help a friend out if it meant a lot to them

  • http://twitter.com/AriNahmani Ari Nahmani

    We live in such a soundbyte, MOST recent news culture that things often get missed. I see no harm in letting friends and relationships you have online know.. personally.. that you have posted an article. Specifically asking them to share it may not be necessary – but the mere alert of something you deem shareable I think is totally necessary and fair game for relationships – online or off. If you are ‘close enough’ to talk about every day life, you should be definitely close enough to at least let them know about something you created. If they deem it valuable, they’ll share it.. hopefully. Otherwise, we’re all doomed to look at Gangam Style and Justin Bieber all day.

  • http://profiles.google.com/ajfried Aaron Friedman

    Dear G-d help us if it ever gets to that point! (oh, and I agree with your comment :) )

    Asking for a share is probably a slight abuse of a friendship… Simply sharing the article in some ways implies what you want, and the real people you are close with will take a hint.

  • http://www.andreawrites.ca/ Andrea T

    I agree with Christine that “sharing things that you don’t feel add value to your network just because someone asked you to seems like a bad idea”

    It should be something that is interesting and/or topical, but doesn’t always have to be both. Do what feels right under the circumstance.

    When promoting friends or family (their activities or products) on a blog, I make it a point of publicly stating that I’m promoting them because I believe in the product not because of our relationship. That said, it never hurts to ask your connections to promote you. They might occasionally do you the favour if it’s not in their usual scope.

    I too would be more inclined to share from a friend than stranger. I get annoyed when strangers ask me to share or RT and it seems that they haven’t given any thought to what value it has for me & my readers and/or followers. Creepier is when I get the request on Twitter from someone whose name I’ve never seen before. That’s the “spray and pray” method of sharing your stuff. Sometimes it feels desperate and while I empathize, I don’t like it.

    A thought about the value and impact of “real relationships” on online activities: You can genuinely vouch for those people and vice versa.

  • http://profiles.google.com/ajfried Aaron Friedman

    My pleasure :)

  • http://profiles.google.com/ajfried Aaron Friedman

    It single handedly changed my career and year.